Thursday, January 27, 2011
Jerome
Raj lost a friend from Sunrise yesterday, Jerome, and he was with him when he died at Alexian Brothers. Raj is sad, and he will really miss him. It's interesting to observe him amid this loss, because he actually had a relationship with Jerome, and this is not common. Even when "well" in the medical sense of the word, I rarely saw Raj reach out to "be there" for another. It's not that I think he's completely selfish, but that he never had much practice being a friend, pretty clueless in the "giving" part but well-versed in the "taking"; As a spouse, he simply stated what he needed/wanted and if it was within my ability, I provided it. When life would get me down, Raj was more like a coach that would tell me to get back in the game, rather than a comforter or listener. I assume his buddies and coworkers had the same experience. He called it "Rajian Physics" - the way everything worked out in his favor, all the time. Anyway, I'm grateful to Jerome for bringing out a different side of Raj, for giving him the opportunity to BE a friend.
Friday, January 14, 2011
Christmas review +
Looking back over Christmas, I can't believe how relaxing and low-stress things were without having to walk on eggshells and cater to every preference of a demanding Dave. We had Raj home for opening gifts on Christmas Eve, and enjoyed some much-appreciated downtime the rest of the kids' break.
Raj fell into the bathroom door of his suite at Sunrise while walking around eating chocolate in the middle of the night recently, but didn't get checked out since he said he wasn't injured. At least there is less wandering at night, because he's been using his C-PAP machine for his sleep apnea (3 weeks now!), and he's actually well-rested. The down side (more for me than anyone else) is that he's awake during the day, calling with multiple requests. And without a sense of priority, he may or may not tell me about falling or running out of meds, while requesting a particular shirt 10 or 20 times!
In the meantime, there have been 2 offers on Dave's house - $120K, which CitiMortgage countered with $155K and the buyer backed out; then $100K cash, which we can't even present to Citi because they've already set their price. Selling prices continue to fall, and now interest rates have started to go up. I don't know what the bank negotiator is thinking.
Raj fell into the bathroom door of his suite at Sunrise while walking around eating chocolate in the middle of the night recently, but didn't get checked out since he said he wasn't injured. At least there is less wandering at night, because he's been using his C-PAP machine for his sleep apnea (3 weeks now!), and he's actually well-rested. The down side (more for me than anyone else) is that he's awake during the day, calling with multiple requests. And without a sense of priority, he may or may not tell me about falling or running out of meds, while requesting a particular shirt 10 or 20 times!
In the meantime, there have been 2 offers on Dave's house - $120K, which CitiMortgage countered with $155K and the buyer backed out; then $100K cash, which we can't even present to Citi because they've already set their price. Selling prices continue to fall, and now interest rates have started to go up. I don't know what the bank negotiator is thinking.
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